I recently had this conversation:
Me: Oh? A few months ago you seemed pretty supportive.
F: Well, that was in theory.
M: It’s okay theoretically, but not in reality???
F: (relieved) Exactly. Well… no. Yes. No. Look, I’m supportive of you, not your choices.
M: It’s not a freakin’ choice.
F: You can’t prove that.
M: (silent stare)
F: You can’t.
I’m not looking for people to be my moral compass- I have the Holy Spirit for that. But, don’t say you’re supportive and then take it away. Step up and be honest at the beginning. Sure, it’ll feel awkward to say look, I really don’ t think this is something that is best for you, but I’m your friend and will stand with you. But won’t it be a lot worse to have to back track?